The Garden Fire.. and beyond...

A good fire needs tending, you can pile the greenery on, Holly, Ivy, Conifer, but once started they burn heavy, and slowly with smoke; so every now and again you have to go back and rotate the green waste into the fires centre.
I am sending smoke signals as far as Mars, as men are from Mars and women apparently from Venus. wasn't it a woman whom wrote that book?. And does it still make any sense. But I have a better Analogy than this.
Relationships, and very much Love, is about owning our very first Car. You walk onto the forecourt and you buy your first Ford Capri. Your so excited, the looks, style curves, no matter what the cost, you have to have it!. You have come to an arrangement, she will get you from A to B in style, you work together mutually for a common goal, as long as you look after her, don't take her for granted, do not race her to hard, change the oil, have her serviced etc. But some people believe they 'own' the car, and are never happy, to them, the car wasn't up to what they expected, they become selfish and indifferent, they start with trying to change the car to the way they want it to be. They paint a go fast stripe right down the middle, fit a body kit, and then pretend to their friends and family, and children its a 2.8 injection. But in reality the Car cannot ever fully change, because when it comes down to it, she was always that beautiful 1.6 litre Cabaret, and always will be. Just like her designer and God intended. So in time you simply fall out of love, no longer that symbiotic relationship, and get strangers to tow her away to an ignominious end in some depressing scrap yard. And here's the moral of the story, The Capri was never anything else than that beautiful car you fell in love with, she could only change to a degree, at a push; but why change her at all?, you accepted here then for what she was then, why should 'you' have had diffrent expectations now?. She was always that beautiful car and never pretended to be anything else. The problem was not with her, it was with you. as cars are like relationships, its not about fundamentally changing each other, its about recognising our differences for what they are, not criticising them; and working together as a team to achieve a common goal. The car like relationships will take you on a wonderful journey, but just as with the car, relationship's must be supportive, and recognise the person for being what they are, true love is unconditional, only then you can really enjoy the journey.
Years later you tell your friends about this amazing Capri you once owned, how beautiful she was, and the way she handled, in fact, she was the best car you ever had!. And you wander what ever happened to her, you now in your heart you sent her to the scrap heap with callous indifference. Or perhaps, a man came along and saw her for what she really was; fell in love with her and restored her a some expense, and looked after her in the many happy years to come?.